To determine the level of healthiness and unhealthiness in a relationship, one must pay attention to the degree of dependence. There is a dependence in every relationship, but the level of it is different. If the level of dependence is high, the relationship becomes unhealthy or dysfunctional.
Why are dysfunctional relationships dangerous and how can we know that we are in a dysfunctional relationship? Pay attention to these 3 signals. If they are present in your business, friendship or family relations, then you are in an unhealthy relationship.
1 ․ Everything good is in the past, and everything bad is in the future.
If you have such a feeling in any kind of relationship, you are most likely in a dysfunctional relationship.
After some time being in dysfunctional relationships, we see the future without perspectives. It feels like being in a tunnel without a light in the end. Everything can only be bad. Meanwhile, in a healthy relationship, the future is positive, full of opportunities. We are free to choose our way.
2 ․ You have to choose among relationships
If a relationship hurts other areas of your life, it is a sign of dysfunctional relationships.
Healthy relationships support and develop us. These relationships do not compete with other areas of life. On the contrary, they help us to realize our potential in different areas of life.
We do not have development and growth in dysfunctional relationships. We lose connection with social life, we lose support outside of that particular relationship, we isolate ourselves. If a particular business relationship does not allow us to feel good around our families or friends, it means it is dysfunctional. If family relationships prevent us from doing professional work or meeting friends, then these are dysfunctional.
3 ․ You feel anxious and depressed in a relationship.
In a dependent, dysfunctional relationship, we feel oppressed, depressed, anxious and unhappy. It is difficult to feel emotions and needs. In healthy relationships, most of the time we feel good and resourceful. Conflicts and crises are being resolved constructively.
If you notice such signals in any relationship in your life, if you feel depressed, cut off from other people, with a bad future, then it is high time to look at the morning sun and decide whether to stay and heal or leave that relationship.
Whichever decision you make, it is best to consult with a psychologist or a life coach to make the recovery process as effective as possible.